Tue Mar 05, 2013 6:48 am
Tue Mar 05, 2013 6:51 am
AyuHikaru wrote:He said your language was cheap and heavy handed, no you personally. While it's a insult to your argument it's certainly not an insult to you. We can all stay rational here.
Bringing out the swears tends to make people listen to your arguments less and all (And you were making some good points)
Tue Mar 05, 2013 7:07 am
Celedam wrote:^ So everything is fair game, as long as it's posted online? Doesn't matter where or by whom, just the physical act of posting it makes it okay?
Tue Mar 05, 2013 8:17 am
Zunu wrote:I'm not saying there's zero creep factor, but I know plenty of people who think idol fans are creepy regardless. From their perspective we're just strippers looking down our noses at call girls with this kind of finger-pointing.
Tue Mar 05, 2013 8:23 am
Celedam wrote:AyuHikaru wrote:That's just uncalled for.
Well gee, I don't appreciate being called "cheap" and "heavy-handed" when I'm talking about something I feel strongly about. I'm funny that way.
Celedam wrote:If we're going to play "Who Said the Naughty Word First?", then maybe you need to look up the meaning of "gmafb". Hiding it in stupid Internet slang doesn't make it any less vulgar.
Besides, I know he wasn't just talking about my language. There is history here.
Tue Mar 05, 2013 9:46 am
It's something that's always been in the back of my mind, I think. Just looking at it as a consumer (i.e., fan/wota), one of the things that has bothered me for a long, long time is the way that by turning idols into objects of adoration, the idol-fan relationship gets in the way of any kind of real I-thou relationship (which is, I think, at the core of our existence), and tends to diminish the human dimensions of both idols and fans.Bakajo Nono wrote:Zunu wrote:I'm not saying there's zero creep factor, but I know plenty of people who think idol fans are creepy regardless. From their perspective we're just strippers looking down our noses at call girls with this kind of finger-pointing.
Yeah, see here it is. I can appreciate not wanting to disrespect someone's privacy, but why get up in arms about "private" but very G-rated pictures being circulated and not about what some might see as the exploitation of young girls? Because under an industry it's a product available for consumption? Does that really legitimate it?
I don't mean this as an insult to anyone. It's just something I think about a lot since kind of becoming less involved in the fandom.
Tue Mar 05, 2013 10:29 am
Tue Mar 05, 2013 10:37 am
Tue Mar 05, 2013 6:33 pm
TotallyUncool wrote:It's something that's always been in the back of my mind, I think. Just looking at it as a consumer (i.e., fan/wota), one of the things that has bothered me for a long, long time is the way that by turning idols into objects of adoration, the idol-fan relationship gets in the way of any kind of real I-thou relationship (which is, I think, at the core of our existence), and tends to diminish the human dimensions of both idols and fans.Bakajo Nono wrote:Zunu wrote:I'm not saying there's zero creep factor, but I know plenty of people who think idol fans are creepy regardless. From their perspective we're just strippers looking down our noses at call girls with this kind of finger-pointing.
Yeah, see here it is. I can appreciate not wanting to disrespect someone's privacy, but why get up in arms about "private" but very G-rated pictures being circulated and not about what some might see as the exploitation of young girls? Because under an industry it's a product available for consumption? Does that really legitimate it?
I don't mean this as an insult to anyone. It's just something I think about a lot since kind of becoming less involved in the fandom.
I know -- there are plenty of people here who are excellent counterexamples, which is something I see and respect, but the truth is that I've never really trusted even the nonidol performer-fan relationship in that regard -- I think it always has at least the tendency to get in the way of both respect for others and self-respect.
And when the idols are young girls, and a big chunk of the target audience consists of older men (I know I'm walking on very thin ice just saying that, but I also know -- and respect -- myself well enough speak honestly), "I" and "thou" are all too likely to go out the window and not be seen again, just as much as they did in the relationship between Humbert Humbert and Dolores Haze in the book, not the f-wording remake of the movie, which I haven't even bothered to watch.
So I'd have to say that even when you're dealing with fandom in a less-than-ethical industry, respect has to be the bottom line: respect for the idols (as people), respect for oneself, and (the hardest of all) respect for other fans.
Tue Mar 05, 2013 8:43 pm
Bakajo Nono wrote:I get that--but what if the industry itself blatantly, contractually disrespects the people involved itself? Is it okay to respect idols as people but still help perpetuate an industry that takes a way a chunk of these girls' autonomy (keeping them from engaging in sexual relationships, limiting their behaviors and exposure, etc), while on the other hand sexualizing them? When it comes to the girls who become idols at an older age, I find it less of an ethical conundrum, but when 12 year-old girls join the industry, with what I'm assuming is more of an interest in fame, performing, or some affinity to this girl group they're fans of, and are then disciplined into sexual objects... I don't know.
It's just a cognitive dissonance for me. Girls singing for girls, about love and romance, etc. while being presented for a largely male audience and being unable to actually engage in the love they sing about.